Persevering for success in the face of failure
It’s hard to look at the bigger picture and persevere for success when it feels like life is not going exactly as you planned. Why don’t I have my dream job yet? How am I ever going to be able to afford a mortgage? It feels like your whole world is shattering in slow motion whilst everyone looks on like they’re at the movies. Popcorn and slushy included. But the moral of every story is that success is found in perseverance through the shitty bits.If you read my last post, then you’ll know that I was talking about finding confidence online. Particularly the ideologies of being encompassed by everyone else’s highlight reel and comparing it to your own behind the scenes.
I quit my job in March to travel the world. Amazing! But now I’m home with nothing but incredible memories, an empty purse and blistered fingers from ferociously sending for job application after job application. I sit in bed with my laptop every day and scroll through the updates of my friends who seem to be living their best lives. Stable jobs with frequent dinners out and lavish trips shopping.
BUT I KNOW I HAVE WHAT IT TAKES…
I believe in myself, I believe in my ability to get into my dream career and absolutely smash it. Because I know I’m persistent, motivated and damn hard-working. But lately, I’ve been struggling with the effects of others not believing in what I have to offer. I’m almost 25 and still working in retail, with a degree in something somewhat unrelated to my chosen career field. I can see why employers might be put off. And in that way, job hunting is hard. I have sympathy for myself but also respect for anyone who has ever been jobless or in a job they don’t like. All the while feeling stuck whilst working hard, relentlessly for a second chance.
“YOU ARE NOT QUALIFIED.”
“YOU’RE NOT TALENTED ENOUGH.”
“YOU DON’T DESERVE SUCCESS.”
It’s not wrong to doubt yourself and it most certainly does not make you a failure, even though every sign might be telling you it’s true. To quote a man that taught me more in 7 books than countless tutors did in 4 years at university…
“Happiness can be found in the darkest of times if only one remembers to turn on the light!” – Albus Dumbledore
It’s coming, perseverance in the face of failure is where you’ll find success…
FEELING SORRY FOR YOURSELF IS FINE…
…but feeling sorry for yourself too much can be even more devastating than the failure itself.
Ok, so it does royally suck that out of the hundreds of job applications I sent off, very few even got back to me. Even less wanted to meet me in person. In the three months that I have been searching for something new, only three companies/recruiters sent that “hey, you might have what it takes, let’s arrange an interview!” email.
I’ve spent a lot of time asking myself what I’m doing wrong. Why is it fair that you’re judged on words on a piece of paper? Can’t they cut me a break? Why am I not better?
Giving myself that time to wallow in my self-pity was more damaging on my self-esteem than the rejection letters entirely. It’s great to ask yourself question and find out what you could be doing better. Because you can learn from that, but you mustn’t dwell on what couldn’t be because there’s something better waiting for you on the horizon.
FINDING ANSWERS TO THOSE QUESTIONS
So I went out, enrolled in a Social Media Marketing course online and proceeded to send out emails asking various industries to take me on for work experience. Ok so I haven’t done so well job hunting in the past, but I figured out where I was going wrong, then learned from my past failures and moved on.
DON’T FORGET THE PAST
It sounds ridiculous, right? But I’ve been through this all before. Maybe it would have been less painful this time around, had I remembered how I tackled it back then.
A couple years ago before I got promoted to my current position, I was fed up with my employer and how I was being treated. I sent off hundreds and hundreds of applications, with unique and individual cover letters over a couple months. I then got beaten down and demotivated when I heard nothing back. It’s like de-ja-vu.
You can’t forget the past and not expect to repeat it! Learn from your mistakes and never make them again…
PERSVERING FOR SUCCESS
So take this as your primary example that you should not live your life worrying about what has happened in the past or things that might not happen in the future. We learn from what has happened and let it lead us to the positives waiting to be discovered in the next chapter. Lets persevere for success in face of failure, together.
Follow your dreams, live your life and most importantly, believe in yourself!